THE WILL OF GOD – Part Five – The
General Sense of God’s Will (Special Revelation – Ephesians 5)
Last time we looked at the Special Revelation as it
relates to the Will of God in 1 Thessalonians 4:3‑8. Now, let’s look at Ephesians 5.
As we have seen from the two preceding passages, we
can generally view it as a command from God to perform His Will. Here is another passage that says we should
“understand what the Lord’s will is.”
(v. 17)
Eph 5:15‑28:
15 Be very careful, then, how you live‑‑ not as unwise but as
wise,
16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are
evil.
17 Therefore do not be foolish, but
understand what the Lord's will is.
18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to
debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.
19 Speak to one another with psalms, hymns
and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord,
20 always giving thanks to God the Father
for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife
as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so
also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the
washing with water through the word,
27 and to present her to himself as a
radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and
blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love
their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (NIV)
It is unavoidable then. If we are really serious about finding the
Will of God and, yes, following or conforming to the Will of God, we are to be
careful how we live and make every opportunity to live wisely. We are foolish otherwise! But these are all general matters. How do we know specifically what is right and
wrong about how we live, how to be wise and how to take every opportunity to
seek and follow God? The answers to
these questions are right here! We don’t
need some great guru or counselor. It is
not a matter of knowledge. It is a
matter of doing. Just a little bit of
self-discipline will do the trick!
From Scripture, it is so simple:
1.
Don’t
get drunk (v.18). Be
filled with the Spirit of God.
2.
Speak
kindly to one another (v.19). I am
not exactly sure that someone would like me to sing to them. That might be really offensive. The connotation of verse 19 is to be kind and
gentile.
3.
Here’s a good one.
Give thanks in everything!
(v. 20) How can I do that when
the world is closing in around me? Well,
it is NOT so easy IF your focus is on yourself. If your focus is on Jesus and on the reward
of spending eternity with Him, then the task makes some sense.
4.
Verse 21 rubs many of us wrong. Submit to ONE ANOTHER!!?? No way.
We live in a world that abhors this.
Unfortunately we are often taught that we should reject authority. We should always make sure we are in a
position to win. Look. It is fine to be competitive and want to win
an athletic contest. But at what
cost? If we must win EVERYTHING at ANY
COST, especially in our personal relationships, we are a LOSER in God’s
eyes! For God says, “Here is how I
expect you to conduct yourself in relationship to one another.” We tend to think of “submit” as a
“four-letter word,” but God says to submit to one another. Of course, we can make judgments about the
deeds, words and even character of another person and, if those are out of
character with God, then we may have a duty to refuse to submit and even to
challenge that person. But not
everything is worth dying for (in the words of friend and Pastor, Bill
Oudemolen, Senior Pastor of Foothills Bible Church in Lakewood, Colorado), but
some things are! One of my favorite
persons in the world is Billy Graham.
How he has avoided scandal after so many years is a testimony to his
character. Even Billy Graham has said
that SOME things are always right and SOME things are always wrong. Not everything, but SOME things.
5.
Wives,
submit. For the
men, verses 22–24 are really easy. We
love to quote these! “Wives, submit
to your husbands as to the Lord. For the
husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body,
of which he is the Savior. Now as the
church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in
everything. Now as the church
submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” This is all true, of course. Wives have a heavy burden to submit to their
husbands “as to the Lord,” mostly because their husbands aren’t really “like
the Lord!” But you are supposed to do
it. Now there is a bit of controversy as
to how far to take this. I believe that
a physically battered wife need not submit to future and continual battering. I believe that a wife is allowed to question
her husband about character and living a Christ-like life and even refuse to
follow if the husband wants her to do something that is anti-biblical, immoral
or illegal. I believe there may be a
duty NOT to submit in some cases. On the
other hand, it is pretty easy to use this to be arrogant, strong-willed and
otherwise inappropriate in many situations.
Wives must be careful here, because most wives are no more Christ-like
than their husbands! Hopefully the
husband and wife can open communication channels here and genuinely talk about
these things as they “submit to one another” as noted in verse 21.
6. Husbands, love. Okay.
Let’s skip verses 25–28! After
all, I’m the husband!! Calm down. I’m just kidding. Do you mean I have to do this? Of course.
I think we often gloss over this as if the husbands know, appreciate and
do these things. Clearly this is not the
case. As a matter of fact, it seems to
me that God has placed a heavier burden and duty on the husband. It is as it should be. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ
loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by
the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a
radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and
blameless. In this same way, husbands
ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
himself.” As Paul says, I am the
chief sinner here, but let me say this.
If husbands followed these verses, there would probably be less trouble
for wives to follow the preceding verses!
Well
that’s tough enough. Enter Romans
12:1-2:
1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in
view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and
pleasing to God‑‑ this is your spiritual act of worship.
2 Do not conform any longer to the
pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then
you will be able to test and approve what God's will is‑‑ his good, pleasing
and perfect will. (NIV)
Oh brother! I
have to offer myself as a sacrifice? I
have to refuse to conform to the world?
Yes, this is true. As verse 2
says, this is God’s pleasing and perfect Will for us.
I’ve got to say that this is not always easy, but it
IS God’s Will. Let me urge you,
right now, to make this a commitment to God.
Practice it. There is little, if
anything we have ever done well in this life that hasn’t come with a price and
with practice. This is the same, so give
it a shot. We may never get this
perfect, but the honest effort will draw us closer to the perfect Will of God
that will be pleasing to Him.
It is not unusual at this point to sense a bit of
uneasiness at discovering God’s Will.
Let me give you a few observations before we continue:
First, the Will of God will never be contradictory to his
Word. Second, the Will of God
will never be contradictory to what we inherently know to be right or wrong. Third, the Will of God will never
be contrary to God's Moral Character.
So, search God’s Word to know Him well.
By so doing, it is easier to know when a path we may want to take is in
accordance with God’s Will. If it
contradicts the Word of God, it is not God’s Will. In addition, there is something inherently
within us that can tell right from wrong.
The problem is that this internal toggle switch has been distorted by
the bombardment of evil in the world – with the ability, learned over time, to
justify and excuse bad actions – that our consciences no longer place an
emphasis and an urgency to discern right from wrong. There are truly some amoral people in the
world. On the other hand, most of us
will feel a little twinge of guilt and quite often, that will be a clue! Just don’t fudge and try to justify what you
really know is improper. Don’t
cheat. “You can’t fix stupid!”
Doug